Regrets? Not for me! DREAM-EXPLORE-DISCOVER all the way In!!!

Anglers Rest “the Book of Me”


Anglers Rest  In Deep with the Book of Me

Prompt 2 – February 2015 – Explore. Dream. Discover.

”Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do, than by the ones you did…….. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain


Julie Goucher prompts are always thought provoking. This one more so that the others in my mind.

I have made tough choices over the year. Some I was sure was the correct route to take in life. Yet when I look back on those choices, I find all the positive, learning, growth aspects it provided me. How can you regret something that helps you become you?

  1. Career choices: Nursing or English teacher?
  2. College: Take time off before going or start right away in the fall?
  3. Marriage: Straight from High School or make your way in life on your own?
  4. Children: To have or Not?

I am confident the decisions I made were what I needed in my life at the time.

June 1978
June Lee Stearns-Butka


  1. Career: I chose Nursing. My mother was happy at that choice. She regretted not being able to go to nursing school and carry on her grandmother’s profession. I look back now, part of my decision to enter the field was to please my mother. Giving my mother that sense of accomplishment through me is a decision I will never regret. I am a caregiver by nature, no matter what I do in life. I am physically unable to work in my beloved profession; it doesn’t prevent me from still providing care in different ways. Supportive eyes and ears are sometimes all that is needed.
Nelson & Shirley Stearns 35th Anniversary 


2. College/Nursing School: I took time off to work as a caregiver, CAN (certified nursing assistant,) mental health worker and other odds jobs before deciding to start a three year diploma nursing program. Near the end of my first year my parent both became ill. Dad had his first heart attack, Mom her first round of cancer. I quit school to care for my parent and younger, still at home siblings. The youngest was only five years old. I do not regret that decision, even though the school Nursing Director, would not accept me back because she thought it was immature of me to leave a paid program to care for my family. NO REGRETS, I was there when my family needed me the most. Family comes first in my book every time. I did go on to obtain my nursing license and worked until my body failed me. Disabilities can slow you down but they cannot stop you from learning new things, new ways, and how to adapt to life challenges. I can provide care with my thoughts, loving support and just being there even if I can’t walk any distance or lift anything more than 30 pounds.



Mike & June's Wedding Day
Mike & June’s Butka’s Wedding Day 


3. Marriage didn’t happened to me until I was 25 years old. I learned to stand on my own two feet, make decisions on my own, take care of a household with the support of a man and many other abilities too numerous to mention. I was the oldest child, I needed to have that alone time, before I could be a partner to someone with the support needed in a lifelong commitment. Did I kiss a few frogs? Yes. Do I regret what I learned from them? No. Those relationships give me the strength and knowledge of what I was looking for when the time came. I found a partner who accepted me as a person first, not doormat, do as I say, stay barefoot and pregnant. We built and are still building a strong loving relationship that provides support to each other. Yes, sometimes more so on one side than the other. That rotates back and forth depending on the circumstances we encounter. A roller coaster ride of ups and downs. Enjoy the happy times-support the sad times that is what makes us stronger.

The Butka Family
The Butka Family


4. Children: I don’t think there was ever a time that I didn’t truly want children at some point in my life. I wasn’t ready to have them when I first graduated high school and was considering a serious relationship that included marriage. You see I am one of those woman who grew up straddling the fence of “Father knows Best” and “Burn your Bras.” I needed time to find out who I was first before taking on the job of raising children. I had been a second Mom to my siblings, I didn’t want to be a young mother. When I met my husband to be, I was in nursing school, her was in the drafting program at the same college. We met in September, started dating in January and were married in April. No regrets. He moved after graduation to New Jersey to start working for Bells Labs. I followed after graduating my nursing program two months later. I did not accept the next level of college I had applied for. I would apply in New Jersey schools and continue my education. Best laid plans…. Our first child surprised us. I never looked back. I have two intelligent, productive, independent adult children who provide joy in my life every day. DEFINITELY NO REGRETS.

DREAM-EXPLORE-DISCOVER: I do that daily. I cannot regret what something that hasn’t happened yet, because life isn’t over. It may not be what I planned to do, but I can assure you that it was meant to be.


To not dream, to not explore, to not discover what life or path there is, would be the regret.

NO Regrets that is for sure. Welcome world. What do you offer me today? I’m ready to learn.

The Stearns Family
The Stearns Family

Tombstone Tuesday: Sally Paige Sargent

Sally , Emily & Gilmon Sargent Remembered
Sally , Emily & Gilmon Sargent Remembered

Main Street Cemetery

New London, Merrimack, New Hampshire


Sally wife of Ezel’

Sergent Died March

1st 1817 Age 44

A Son & Dau of Ezel’ &

Sally Sergent, Gilmon died

Dec 11 1805 Age 11m, Emily

Died March 13 1817 Age 3w


A Sally Paige was the first wife of Ezekiel Sargent of New London, Merrimack, New Hampshire who gave birth to a daughter Emily and a son Gilmon.  There are two other stones in this plot, Ezekiel and wife Emily. I will post them in later blogs.


Family Search

Photos by June Stearns Butka taken 15 Nov 2009.

Thinking Day 22 Feb 2015 Remembering when…

Swift Water Canoe Team  1994
Swift Water Canoe Team 1994

The theme for World Thinking Day 2015 is

 “Girls worldwide say “we can create peace through partnerships.”

End Poverty Badge
End Poverty Badge

World Association of Girl Guides and Girl Scouts

Teaching girls new skills, how to adjust to life’s adversities and working together with others, comes in all forms of Team Building.

When you think of Girl Scouting you automaticall think of Girls Scout Troops, selling cookies and summer camp.

That is just a small part of how the Girls Scouts and Girl Guides learn.

Girl Scout Counselors from Around the World
Girl Scout Counselors from Around the World
Girlguiding Patch
Girlguiding Patch


I had the opporunity to becaome a Girls Scout leader when my daughter wanted to join as a Daisy. I continued with her as a leader until she became a Junior Girl Scout. (I know it was time to let her fly on her own, to learn from others, to find her own way in life.)  I remained as an adult Girls Scout supporting them through education, training of future leaders camping skills and CPR, camp nurse, chase team for the Canoe Team and hosting Girl Scout counselors from around the world.

I was fortunate enough to have an amazing group of young ladies stay with me over the years. My children learn about the cultures of Yugoslavia (Bosnia), Hungry, Wales, England, Denmark and Czechoslvakia.

Team building is a strong theme of the Canoe Team, along with safety, good sportsmanship and having fun while learning.  The girls practiced locally for the General Clinton Canoe Regatta in Brainbridge New York that is held on Memorial Day weekend.

There was one year I was especailly  remember. It was the years the Girls came in third place. They had previously come in first place. This year stands out in my mind because the two girls that paddle the final lap of the race chose to give up first place they were in to aid an overturned canoe team in trouble. They learned the importance of Safety, team building and that winning isn’t everything.

When the awards were handed out, the announces even mentioned the fact that the girls were in first place but choose to give it up to help others. Everyone started appaulding and yelling out “well done.”

Jane and Bill had done their job well in teaching the young ladies the important things in life.

Girls Scouts from Derry, New Hampshire 1986-1989
Girls Scouts from Derry, New Hampshire 1986-1989


The photos are from my experience as a Girls Scout. I wish I could remember who photographed our Girl Scout Troop #14 in 1989, to give them proper credit.

I hope this triggers you to remember your time as a Girl Scout or Girl Guide:

Your first troop meeting,

Learning the Girls Scout Promise-

The Girl Scout Laws

The camping Songs,

The first time you sleep in a tent,

The summer Girl Camps you went to,

And most of all-

The FUN and FRIENDSHIPS you made over the years.

Happy Girl Scouting!

Girl Scout Promise and Law
Girl Scout Promise and Law

Girl Scouts of America Wikipedia

Photos by June Stearns Butka except where noted.

Symbols from Google search with links provided to originals

World Thinking Day World Association of Girl Guides and Girl Scouts

Wikipedia “World Thinking Day”

#Wk7GenealogyDoOverBlog: Saving is the Name of the Game

Saving is the Name of the Game
Saving is the Name of the Game


Week #7 of the Genealogy Do Over was an easy one for me.

  1. I had already researched and decided on what Genealogy Database Software to use.
  2. I have been digitizing photos and documents for years.
  3. This was a great overview and reminder of the proper way to record my tree and photos for future generations.
  4. I have a Jumbl Scanner for my negatives and filmstrips, a flatbed scanner for my photos.
  5. I use Adobe Photoshop to provide minimal corrections to my photographs.

Jumbl scanner

  1. I will update my Family Tree Maker program, as needed, with new information, photos and documents.
  2. I will use Legacy Family Tree program to add all ancestors’ documentation, starting with me, following the GPS before entering them.
  3. I will learn and use Evidentia to aid in providing the missing pieces and proper documentation of evidence to support my conclusions.
A Thomas MacEntee GeneaBlogger Community
A Thomas MacEntee GeneaBlogger Community

Thomas MacEntee Geneabloggers

Previous topics in the Genealogy Do-Over:

Genealogy Do-Over – List of All Topics

Genealogy Do-Over Halfway there: LIFE IS GOOD!!!


A Thomas MacEntee GeneaBlogger Community
A Thomas MacEntee GeneaBlogger Community

Genealogy Do-Over Halfway there LIFE IS GOOD!!!

Thomas MacEntee Geneabloggers

Week 1 – 2-8 January 2015

  • Setting Previous Research Aside
  • Preparing to Research
  • Establishing Base Practices and Guidelines

Week 2 – 9-15 January 2015

  • Setting Research Goals
  • Conducting Self Interview
  • Conducting Family Interviews

Week 3 – 16-22 January 2015

  • Tracking Research
  • Conducting Research

Week 4 – 23-29 January 2015

  • Managing Projects and Tasks
  • Tracking Searches

Week 5 – 30 January-5 February 2015

  • Building a Research Toolbox
  • Citing Sources

Week 6 – 6-12 February 2015

  • Evaluating Evidence
  • Reviewing Online Education Options


The past six weeks have been hectic. Sometimes overwhelming, sometimes sliding backwards, most time moving forward at a snail’s pace.


I decided to take some down time from Genealogy, not my choice. My body said “enough is enough, you need to rest.  At first I didn’t listen until I noticed I was slipping into bad habits (my old way of researching), making stupid mistakes and following those BSO’s (Bright Shinny Objects) Thomas is always talking about. I stopped, surveyed what I was doing, decided to take the time my body was insisting I have.

Four days later, my head was clearer, my body was finally able to stand and walk, I was ready to start again. At least I thought I was. Not so, my body again informed me I was not ready.

Here is my Facebook post from 13 Feb 2015, the last in several postings about my health. I only recently decided to post health related issues. I post this not for sympathy, but to let everyone know that sometimes we must listen to our body, family or loved ones when they say…

“Stop! Rest! Take time off!”

I listened. I do feel better for it. I am ready to continue on with my Do-Over with a clearer mind and more energy.


Remember take time out for yourself and your loved one. Your research will thank you in the end.


Facebook June Stearns Butka 13 Feb 2015:


“In 2006 I made a choice to participate in a Chemotherapy Trail after fighting with various cancers in my body since 1999 with diet and natural alternatives.


One of the side effects listed was tooth decay. The form of Chemo was supposed to stay in your body for up to 10 years. My dentist had agreed to be part of the trail in following my care.


It seems every two years I am reminded that I made the choice of


LIFE vs Teeth.


I gladly chose life.


It is scary that the chemo is still in my body and causing the various weaknesses and tooth decay that I have been dealing with these past few years.


The BRIGHT side of thing is I am still here spending time with my family and friends, learning new things daily, and kicking cancers butt.


So what if I have bad days where I can’t move, think clearly or participate the way I once did.


I CAN participate and embrace every moment that life has to offer until I make my final journey home to join my loved one who preceded me.



#Wk5GenealogyDoOverBlog: Building a Research Toolbox

Genealogy Toolbox additions
Genealogy Toolbox additions

Week five of my Genealogy Do-Over was a slow one for me. Life decided to invade on my research time. That is okay. Thomas MacEntee reminds us that the do-over is to proceed at our own pace.

I have continued to add to my Genealogy Toolkit, both, online and with books. The photo above shows some of the new tools I have added. I’m excited to utilize the Google Earth to create video tours of where my ancestors lived. I know the younger children in the family will enjoy learning this way.

My IPad will be more efficient when I return to my research trips around the state. I will be link with my home computer and not have to take time to upload the information a second time.

Applied Genealogy book is not a new tool. It is a reminder to me to not forget what books I already have available on my bookshelf. Town Histories, history books in general and some published genealogies will aid in creating a full picture of my ancestors lives.

My online research is growing daily. I add website links to my new Excel research log.

The research log is still a challenge for me. I am learning how to add a column, add a line along with keeping track where I have researched the time, date and transcriptions. It is a slow process. I am improving with each use of the log.

I have been using the research log to do list to keep track of those BSO’s (Bright Shinny Objects) that keep tempting me. I add the link or a note to the “TO Do List” keeping myself on track.

Citations this week for me includes taking my handwritten source cards, from my previous research, entering them into the computer with the proper format. Yes, we are to put previous research aside. I feel by the sources are still valid for future inclusion of my ancestors.

I have completed (this will be ongoing as I find more information) my own basic profile with proper citation of birth, marriage, nursing licenses, residences and photographs. All cited and named properly in my database Research log.

I will leave my research on the log until it is time to add them to the Genealogy program I will use. I currently use FTM2014. I have Legacy 8.0. I haven’t decided which I will use for my final option or if I will enter them into both.


Here are my 5 W’s and How

Who: Me, June Lee Stearns Butka and my ancestors

What: My life in review

Where is: Find the supporting documents

Where in: Cite the location of those documents

When: Past and current residences, occupations, life happenings

Why: For future generations and to document my life and my ancestors

How: Slowly, carefully, citing, documenting each step of my ancestral journey


My plan:

  1. Continue improving my skills
  2. Follow the GPS Standards (Genealogy Proof Standard)
  3. Update research goals as needed
  4. Prepare for family interviews
  5. Continue scanning records and photos
  6. Track all my research
  7. Conduct my research one person at a time
  8. Continue to build my Genealogy Toolbox
  9. Properly cite my sources


A Thomas MacEntee GeneaBlogger Community
A Thomas MacEntee GeneaBlogger Community